Sadly, life is replete with examples of people who can’t (or won’t) get out of their own damn way.
The other day, we were having a lively conversation with a friend about people who, for whatever reason, continue to engage in negative behaviors, hang out with the wrong crowd, and refuse to grow.
Perhaps they don’t know they can change.
Perhaps their own unique experience informs them there is no way they can change.
This, in itself, is sad.
What’s worse is that
People Will Make The Dumbest Attempt, Every Year, To Rectify This
We call these “New Years Resolutions” – and they’re guaranteed to fail.
Go back to the gym on January 1, after two months of ceaseless gorging from a sedentary position.
Start a job hunt through your NYE hangover, because no way you’re staying at that same job you decided to quit seven years ago.
Forgive and forget.
Write it down now so you can just hand it to people on a piece of paper in one year from now. Nothing will change.
Change CAN Happen – When You Just Look At Something Else In The Other Direction
Six years ago, we New Years’ Resolutioned to become vegetarian. Well, actually, we had decided to do it in November, but chose to implement the change right after we got done with a big launch.
Beginning January 1, recognizing the cold-turkey approach goes noplace, we set forth a two-month plan:
- Start by observing that inane “Meatless Mondays” thing because, whatever
- About once a week, add another vegetarian day – so it became 5 days carnivore / 2 days herbivore, 4 days carnivore / 3 days herbivore, etc. etc. until we got to 7 days herbivore
- Enjoy lots of bacon burgers, racks of ribs, and strips of steak, but do less and less until the time came
What astounded even us was that
Our Last Bacon Burger Ever Was In Mid-January, And We Were Fully Vegetarian By The Second Week Of February
Big change, short timeframe.
We got so excited about vegetarian recipes, vegetarian restaurants, and all things vegetable, we just got so busy enjoying all the new opportunities we forgot all about the burgers and bacon.
Cooking became fun in a new way – vegetarian food prep won’t give you Salmonella and you don’t get reminded you’re handling something that was recently alive.
Simply clearing the windshield of the old and focusing full-time on the new made it an adventure to embrace instead of an extended funeral for a life being left behind.
Don’t Resolve To Change The Old. Just Start Doing The New
Not on Calendar-Change Day.
Think about these other six success muscles you’ll be flexing.